Answering a Reader Question #476

Rachel White Wrote:

HEY DANIA, I WAS RECENTLY SIGNED WITH AN AGENCY AND WAS WONDERING IF YOU HAD ANY TIPS ON BEING CONFIDENT. THANKS, LOVE YOUR BLOG!

Hi there, Rachel!

First off, big congrats to you for getting signed...that's wonderful! That accomplishment itself is actually my first piece of advice to you for being more confident.

Think about it: the fact that you've got an agent automatically places you well ahead of the many, many, many model hopefuls out there that have been trying to get to the point where you are now. That's big and is a well deserved confidence boost. Who wouldn't feel good about themselves because of that? :-)

A second thing to keep in mind is to realize that the agency saw something special in you--enough for them to want to represent you.

The third is to constantly remind yourself how worthy you are of being a model and having an agent. This comes in handy when going to castings and go-sees, where you're going to be in the same room with "the competition." I'm not gonna lie: there are some amazingly drop dead beautiful gals out there...I know, I have to compete against them for modeling jobs all the time, lol. But when you start get that nagging doubt and your self confidence begins to falter, mentally tell yourself that you have just as much right to be there and that there is something special about you, otherwise you wouldn't be there in the first place.

Having a positive mantra, chant or saying that you constantly tell yourself in your head is a great way of maintaining your confidence. Every time you look at yourself in the mirror, focus on your assets, not your flaws. I've even advised other models to try the following: each morning they wake up and look in the mirror, they should say out loud one thing they like about themselves (physical, personality, traits, etc.).

In my opinion, confidence isn't just about the way you carry yourself, it's about how you see yourself. When you truly feel good about yourself and your capabilities, everything else falls into place. Don't look to others to validate you because they can't be your confidence--only you can achieve that.

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