Answering a Reader Question #983

Tanisha Wrote:

 Im Tanisha in I have had alot of people tell me oh my ur so beautiful why u want sign up to be a model in I'll tell them im not that beautiful in down grade myself all the time so I need a little help from anyone because everyone has there in opinion

Hi there, Tanisha!

Although I don't know you personally or all of the details of your situation, it sounds like you have some work to do before entertaining the idea of pursuing modeling. Because it is an industry that is based on many superficial/physical factors, I strongly encourage you to work on loving yourself first before anything else.

I say that because it's not that modeling wouldn't be good for you or that you shouldn't try it BUT entering this field requires a lot of confidence and a thick skin that can handle rejection. Many men and women find it hard to be judged based on their looks and the many other factors involved with the process of finding agency representation and submitting to modeling jobs.

If you currently have a habit of down grading yourself and seeking additional opinions or validations as to whether you are pretty enough to be a model, I can tell you right now that the experience and journey of modeling will not be a positive one for you and could do more harm than good for you emotionally.

The most successful models are the ones that believe in themselves 110%. They know they have what it takes and that their self worth isn't measured by what others think or that rejection means they are not valued or don't have something to contribute.

Building up your self esteem and not only loving what you see when you look in the mirror but embracing all your self perceived flaws is what's going to give you that extra special "It Factor" that it will take to get your foot in the door with modeling in a way that will be rewarding and inspiring for you.

If others are telling you that you're beautiful then they clearly see something that you yourself are not yet able to. And until you can see the beauty for yourself that everyone else sees and--most importantly--not second guess it, that is when you know you'll be ready to jump into modeling. You don't need validation from anyone other than yourself when it comes to such things. And that can take time.

You can't rush greatness so my best piece of advice to you at the end of the day is to work on loving yourself and taking the steps you need to reach a point where when someone tells you you're beautiful and that you should pursue modeling, your automatic response is to smile, say, "Thank you" and that you are definitely going to look into modeling and if it would be a good fit for you. :-)

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