Answering a Reader Question #1,024

Anonymous Wrote:

My mom thinks that even doing a modelling program breaks young girls heart when they don’t get gigs and stuff like that😭

What should I say to her?

I’m 12, and I really want to at least attend a modelling program.

Hi, Anonymous!

If you haven't already, I would suggest doing your research and finding a modeling program that clearly states their purpose/mission and present that information to your mom. Many programs do state that in addition to teaching skills related to modeling, they also focus on positive mindset, developing self confidence and how to feel comfortable in your own skin.

Now, not all modeling programs focus on this, however. Many -- especially if they're labeling themselves as a "modeling school" -- will just take your money, teach you basic modeling walks, poses, hair and makeup tips and set you up with either photoshoots and/or have you participate in a fashion show and that's it but these days, there are others that combine a type of life coaching for helping young women learn how to love themselves and build self esteem.

Find a modeling program that combines those two and your mom may have a better understanding of why you want to get involved. But it's also important that you are able to explain to her the benefits of why you want to participate in such a program and what you hope to gain, even if you end up not becoming a model professionally.

Model Camp is one such program that sets things up so that you learn modeling skills and have the opportunity to meet with agencies but states on their site that they also teach skills and values that can be used in the real world outside of modeling:

https://modelingcamp.com/

Please note that I do not know, work with or endorse this company. It is just an example of a modeling program you could check out. I also don't personally recommend programs since submitting digital snapshots to agencies is free and doesn't require training but you sound like you have a lot of interest in modeling programs so I want to at least address that and allow you and your parents to make a final decision based on the research you do.

Many times parents are worried about their kids doing activities that will end up disappointing them and letting them down. No parent wants to see their child upset or to experience the kind of rejection that is commonplace in a modeling career. So it is important that you set your expectations realistically and are able to communicate with your mom about the pros and cons so she'll see that you've thoroughly researched and thought things through. To be honest, she's also probably thinking about the money aspect because I don't know of many modeling programs that don't charge a lot of money. This is something to also take into consideration, especially if finances are a challenge for your family (it is for many people).

If she still doesn't budge, there isn't much you can do except to continue to study and learn the modeling industry through legitimate online resources and try to have the conversation with her again after some time has passed.

Wishing you the best of luck regardless of which route you decide to take...you're still very young and that's a good thing, you've got plenty of time to get into modeling when the timing is right and you have the full support of your family.